UPDATE: “How could you say I’m not entitled to anything?”: Wife pressured to sign prenup confronts husband, demands she get proper compensation in case of divorce

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    Update: AITA for refusing to sign a prenup after marriage?

    "I'm using my own lawyer"
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    First, I want to sincerely thank everyone for their words. I truly benefited from each and every comment, and I felt so empowered reading your perspectives.
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    I couldn't sleep last night thinking about what to say to my husband. He usually wakes up around 5 AM to go to the gym and have his coffee in peace before the kids wake up, so I decided to wake up with him (hello, headache all day!).
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    I told him that I was completely shocked when he asked me to sign this document-especially since he was actually okay with me signing it. I asked him, How can you say I'm not entitled to anything? I work my a off from 9 to 5, then come home to cook, take care of the kids, and handle bedtime. And at
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    the end of the month, I don't see a penny-everything goes to the bills. Sure, he pays for our trips, clothes, and gifts, but I never ask for anything or tell him what to buy me.
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    Then I brought up religion. I told him, If you want to talk about. religion, let's be fair about it. Islamically, my money is my own, and you're not supposed to use it. If that's the case, I want every dollar I earned back-around $300K for the five years I worked.
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    I also told him that if he really. wants me to sign, I will—but with my own lawyer. Because apparently, I've been too naïve and should have known better.
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    Finally, I told him that we were supposed to be saving together, but now he's saying that in case of divorce, I get nothing? So what was all my hard work for?
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    At one point, I got really emotional and started crying because I was genuinely hurt that he thought this was okay. That's when he hugged me, apologized, and promised he wouldn't ask me to sign anything. He even said he's willing to put half of everything in my name right now-just not the controlling rights and whatnot.
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    I still have a lot to process, and the meeting with the account who suggested this in the first place but at least for I feel heard. Thank you all again for your support!
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    AnakaliaKehau • 4h ago I'm so happy to hear this update and hope your husband stays in your corner and stands up to his father. Good luck
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    Oh_Wiseone 4h ago Good I'm glad for this update. However, please hire a forensic accountant. Your lack of knowledge on the exact financials of the business is naive and worrisome. This is to ensure accountability and transparency for your
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    children. Your husband should be 100% ok with this.
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    Analisandopessoas ⚫ 3h ago Congratulations, you acted maturely and were spot on.
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    TodaylAmMostlyEati... • 3h ago Sounds like you reminded him how financially in the shi he'd be if you divorced and got what you were legally entitled to. He's like "oh sh, she did some research. Back pedal quickly!"
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    Sadeezy 13 3h ago You've already mentioned it, but Islamically, every penny of what your earn is yours, and it's upon the husband to completely provide for the family.
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    The fact that many Muslim women in the west help financially just showcases how our women go above and beyond their responsibilities to create a beautiful home.
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    I hope you hold your husband to putting half of everything in your name. I'm a father, and I'd want my girls to protect themselves.
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    Feisty_Plankton775 • 3h ago I guess I am not understanding why you weren't getting 50% of everything to begin with? The money he earns is his and the money you earned is also his?
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    agree on this 1 Prenuptial Agreeme day of Prospective Husband and P a 2 Pr other Financial S 3. r respective rights and property that ma hereinafter referred to as Prospective Husband, and as follows: hereinafter referred to as Prospective Wife, hereby in the year and Prospective Wife ha emplate marriage in the near future and wish to garding each other's income and property er separately or together, during the Except as otherwise provided below, Prospective Husbar following rights: ncial asset
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    Equal-Brilliant2640 • 3h ago GIRL PUMP THE BREAKS!!! Stop celebrating, do not let this man off the hook just yet. You need to make sure his telling the truth and not just blowing smoke up you a to get you to shut up
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    You need to call the bank yourself, set up an appointment with them to have you added to the deed. Then you tell him "hey hunny, I set up an appointment for us on the 18th at 11am to have me added to the deed. My mom said she will look after
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    the kids for the day, and while we are there we can set up my own chequing account that you can put money into every month so I have my own spending money, after that, we can go for lunch and then have me added to the car ownership"
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    And then see how he reacts, if he looks worried, confused, angry (pretty much anything other than happy/relived) he was making empty promises to you
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    Also, make couples therapy non-negotiable, and look into hiring a forensic account, as someone mentioned, things aren't adding up

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